Building a healthy relationship.

Relationship can be so complex, most especially that we all referred to as dating.
Sometimes we wonder why it's so difficult and full of misunderstanding when it's just the two people involved. But there are more to what the eyes sees in a relationship. There are some limits that should not be crossed, some games that should not be played, some acts and inactions that should be left out to have a near perfect relationship.
NOTE, no relationship is perfect, one can only have a near perfect relationship and that is where we all get it wrong by striving to have a total perfect relationship. We give in so much and expect so much in return and that leads to insecurities and mistrust. As humans, we are not perfect too, even to our individual self and so we possibly can't foexpect to give in a total perfect or expect total perfection from a partner too.

Here are some tips though to help get along in our relationships and lead a problem free relationship. Some of these tips are nearly unrealistic but when inputted, will help a lot in our relationships.

1. Never build a wall around your partner:  most people think it is a kind of protection when they guard or build walls around their partners and shield others from getting close to them. This in it's own sense is abnormal and frustrating. Having your partner be able to interact freely with other people and mix freely doesn't mean he/she won't be faithful to the relationship and building up a high wall around him/her doesn't mean they won't cheat. In fact, when you allow your partner mix freely, they tend to talk freely to you about their experiences with other genders. This in turn builds your trust for each other and let you know what weaknesses and strength your partner has towards the other gender.

2. Stop being over possessive: We all tend to believe we own our partners, owning in the sense that they should devote a larger percentage of their time and resources to us. So we call every time to check on them (whereas it is just to know what they are doing at the moment and where they are and also who they are with. We want them to spend their spare and free times with just us and us alone. Don't get me wrong, demanding for your partners free time for yourself is not wrong, but not all this free times can be spent with you. He/she needs sometime to hang out with friends too (of course with you among them), some girls time and boys time out that doesn't even require we are there with them. It's a relationship and not a body guard contract.

3. Don't try to change your partner forcefully: There was a quality or characteristic we saw in our partner that got us attracted to them, it is as the relationship proceeds we begin to discover some "not too pleasant" characters about them which we don't like. But it is not ideal to want to change them forcefully.
Relationships is all about understanding and compromise, we let go of some principles and set standards so as to have a good relationship. If such partner loves and want the relationship as much as we do, they will gradually do away with the bad habits or characters. But wanting to change them forcefully by constant nagging or pressure will lead to a painful breakup.

4. Give respect to earn respect: This is just as simple as it sounds but then we find it hard at times to submit or bow to each others opinions.

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